It’s transformation Tuesday! Yes, that’s a thing in the fitness world! But, It isn’t the physical transformation that I love, though it is a nice bonus. What I really, really love is the mental shift that happens when you start focusing on working on yourself. That kind of transformation takes time but is so worth it. It is the reason that I love what I do as a health and wellness mentor. My heart is so full, when I see women gain a new confidence that they had lost for so long. Watching women succeed fills my cup.
The start of my transformation
I had a physical transformations fairly quickly after starting my wellness journey. After doing my first ever Beachbody program, the 21 Day Fix, I lost 11 pounds in my first round and felt great physically. But I quickly fell off of that wagon and spent the next 9 months or so making excuses as to why I couldn’t commit to a program for longer than a week or so at a time.
That summer, I continued to hide my body under baggy clothes, one piece swim suits (I was always a bikini girl!) and behind my daughter. Even though I was at a very healthy weight and even fairly toned, I still had no confidence. My motivation quickly left and I didn’t know where to find it.
Insert, my first ever online challenge group! This was the accountability that I needed in my life. These women in this group lifted me up and made me want to do better. I got back to my daily workouts and eating healthy and felt so much better. But that group soon ended and I was left with no one to motivate me or push me.
That’s about the time, I decided I needed to be my own motivation. I can’t depend on others to lift me up and push me. If I wanted to succeed, I had to learn to do it myself. So I signed up to be a coach with no experience, no clue what I was doing, still very little if any confidence and not at my ideal fitness level. At that point in my life, I was still consumed by other peoples opinions of me and I certainly didn’t feel worthy of helping any one else. But I jumped in!
I jumped in because I knew I needed a change-something to challenge my mind, something to do for myself, outside of my family, something that would keep me accountable to my own goals.
So, I jumped in with both feet. Well,sort of. I jumped in with both feet and then started to tip toe back out and then in again and then out and then in again…But I slowly learned to start facing my fears more often. I quickly began devouring all of the personal development that I could get my hands and ears on! And you know what happened? Every damn time I faced one of those fears, every time I tip toed out of my comfort zone, I became a little stronger, a little more confident, a little bit better person.
Who I am now
Who I am now, is NOT who I was five years ago! And I hope that in five more years, I’m even stronger, more confident, more alive and even more joyful than I am today! Because I never want to stop growing as a person. I still have a lot of work to do but I now know how to do it. Each day, I face the day with a positive attitude and an open mind. Every day, I start the day with a grateful heart. I find a way to do something scary and out of my comfort zone on a regular basis. It’s not always easy but I know that in the long run, it always pays off and I become better for it.
Stop being afraid of becoming who you are meant to be. Make TODAY, the day you DECIDE to take ACTION on becoming the best YOU, that you can be.
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Does anyone else get as excited about a new year as I do?! I know you don’t need a new year to start over, set new goals and make big changes. You can do that any day of the year! Mondays have always been my favorite for that reason too. But there is something refreshing about a blank slate, a whole new year to dream big and make things happen. And as I have for the last 5 years, I have big plans for this new year! I have set some pretty scary goals but also have committed to changing myself for the better.
I’ll be honest with you, I started to get really down the last few weeks of December. I had set some big goals last January and I didn’t reach them all. It can be very disappointing, for sure. So, I had two choices, I could let those define my future or I could learn and grow from those failures. And thanks to a dear friend, I decided to NOT focus on the goals that I didn’t reach but instead, focus on what I did accomplish in 2018. And the list was not that shabby.
Here are a few of my favorite accomplishments from 2018
I started and completed an 80 day program that completely transformed me physically and mentally. It also challenged me in a way that I had never been challenged. I’m not gonna lie, it was HARD! But I stuck to it, stayed committed to my nutrition and my workouts for 13 weeks and the results spoke for themselves. I literally cried on the last day because I was so proud of myself and felt so accomplished. It was one of the most rewarding experiences of my life.
In January of 2018, I set the goal to complete 80 Day Obsession. As a reward for completing the program, I promised myself a fitness photo shoot. This was something I’ve never done before and completely out of my comfort zone. But I knew at 41 years old, I was going to be in the best shape of my life. I decided to celebrate that as well as document it!
As the end of the program approached I set the date and scheduled my photo shoot. I was seriously a nervous wreck! That morning, I went and had my hair and makeup done and showed up for the shoot 20 minutes early, in true Tammy fashion. My photographer was amazing and put me at ease. I had such a great time and left there feeling so confident! It was definitely a highlight of my year and the pictures turned out beautiful. There is truly no feeling like overcoming your fears and stepping outside your comfort zone.
The week following the end of 80 Day obsession and my photo shoot, Chris and I left for Mexico! How amazing was it going to the beach at 41 years old and in the best shape of my life!! I had never in my life been more confident strutting around in my bikini! The best part of this vacation (besides spending it with the love of my life) was that it was a trip I earned by helping other people get started on their on fitness journey. How cool is that!? Another highlight of that trip- running into Autumn Calabrese (the creator of 80 DO) and her telling me she liked my outfit and that I looked great! I died!
Yep, you read that right! All 5’3 of me signed on with an agency as a model. I have to laugh at that a little. The truth is, ever since I was in middle school, I dreamed of being a model. I pursued it a few times with little outcome. To be honest, I don’t think it was very good for my self esteem. I wasn’t in a place to be able to handle rejection at that age in my life.
Here’s how it happened. After I received the pictures back from my photo shoot, on a crazy whim, I sent them to a local modeling agency. I really didn’t expect much but I thought what the hell do I have to lose. Well, they ended up signing me on and I was even able to book a few gigs over the summer. I have no plans to become rich or famous from modeling but it sure has been a fun experience so far. The biggest thing that it has done for me, is boost my confidence. Not for the reasons you may think. I’m not getting jobs because I’m the prettiest, in the best shape, etc. They’re not runway or catalogue jobs! Remember I’m 5’3 and 41 years old! It’s the fears that I’m overcoming fears that has me feeling so proud. Every time you do something outside your comfort zone, you boost your confidence a little more!
Insanity & PiYo Certified
This was a big one too! For the last 4 years I’ve talked about getting certified to teach Insanity and PiYo classes. For 4 years, I’ve made excuses for why I couldn’t. But not this year! This was my year to face my fears and do all the things! I had an absolute blast getting certified to teach Insanity with my brother at our annual Beachbody coach event over the summer. I even got to meet my “girl crush” and one of my fav coaches, Danielle Natoni! Not gonna lie, I was a little star struck especially when she commented on my abs! Whaaatttt!!
And then in the fall, I was able to get my PiYo certification from the comfort of my basement. Turns out that class is a lot harder to teach than I imagined but I look forward to working on it in the new year.
Facing more fears
One of the gigs that I booked happened to be at an amusement park. When I agreed to do this photo shoot, I had no idea that I would have to actually ride the rides. See, I have a major fear of heights and I get motion sickness. While I love taking my kids to this particular amusement park, I never actually ride the roller coasters. I stick with Stella in the kiddie area and watch the excitement on the boys faces when they come off of the rides.
Not this time. I had to do it! I was getting paid to do it! So, I took my Dramamine, prayed really hard, took several deep breaths and even cussed a little. But I did it! I rode the scariest and highest rides at this park. And I had a blast! I did get a little sick on day one and may or may not have had to go lie down in the first aid tent. I rallied though and finished with a bang!
Growing my business
While my coaching business didn’t end where I had hoped it would. I had to appreciate the fact that it is still growing and thriving. Also, the fact that I love what I do and am able to fit it in on my time makes me appreciate it even more. The last 6-8 months of the year had been really crazy for me with Stella being home all summer, the change in Stella’s school schedule and her added therapies. The truth is that I didn’t make the time to work my business like I would have. And I could feel bad about that or accept that this is the season of life that I’m in. It won’t last forever. I also have to be super proud of the fact that I may have put less hours into coaching than I would have liked but my income still grew this year. That is the beauty of this business! There are few jobs out there that would accommodate my current schedule and still have room for me to grow. I’m feeling very blessed.
It was a good year!
My word of 2018 that I chose last January was AUTHENTIC. That word was important to me because I wanted show people the real me, all of me. No more of just the highlight reel but the good, the bad and the not so pretty. It was a very freeing year, following this one word.
Though it looks like my theme for last year should’ve been overcoming fears. I was a bad ass at that all year long! My plan for 2019- to continue stepping outside my comfort zone and being authentically and unapologetically me. But my new word this year will be- BECOMING. This year I will work on becoming my best version, becoming who God intended me to be and becoming the kind of person that gives value to others. With that I will be focusing on letting go- legging go of other people’s opinions of me, self doubt, things that I can not control, my own limiting beliefs, my excuses and things that do not make me better.
As a stay at home mom for the last 13 years, I have loved what I do and feel blessed that I have been able to stay home. When my boys were younger, we struggled a lot financially and I dreamed of finding a way to earn money without having to give up my time with them. That dream did not seem possible to me at that time though. It wasn’t until after I had my daughter that this opportunity fell into my lap. But it was more than just a coincidence that this dream became a reality. What happened was, I finally decided that I wanted more! I was ready to work for more! I created my dream job with hard work and dedication and I continue to do so.
Dreams become a reality when you make a plan
It is true that you CAN have a career that you love and are passionate about. Your dreams can come true, but you have to be willing to put the work in. This business is not a get rich quick kind of career. It’s more of a follow your passion, share your passion, help others, grow as a person and make your dreams come true, kind of career. The secret to making your dreams into a reality, is to make a plan. Write down your goals, look at them everyday and make a plan as to how you are going to reach them. You must get them on paper! And you must look at them everyday! Create a vision for what you want your life to look like and create it.
Can I tell you that I genuinely wake up every morning and am actually excited about working! I love what I do because I see the impact I’m having on others’ lives. That is the true measure of performance for me. It’s not the paycheck (though that’s nice), it’s knowing that what you are doing is making a difference. I want to make a difference!
The truth is, this business isn’t for everyone. We are all unique individuals, created for different purposes. But if you are reading this and you want more for your life, you want to dream bigger and you’re ready to commit to making your dreams come true, I’m here to tell you that you can! It is possible!
The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never actually do it.
Stop waiting, stop making excuses as to why you can’t do something, You are the only one in control of your destination. You are in the driver’s seat! I remember when I use to blame everyone and everything for the circumstances of my life. Do you know where that got me?? Nowhere. Nothing ever changed because I wasn’t willing to change. The change has to start with you. Tell yourself that you can make things happen and you will. It’s not always easy and I can promise you that you will fail along the way. That is what makes you stronger! Learn from your failures and keep pushing through. There is no way to count the number of times I have failed and continue to fail on my journey. Without those failures, we would not be who we were meant to be. These are important life lessons if you are open minded enough to learn from them. So go ahead and jump in! No more waiting!
Be Fearless in the Pursuit of What Sets Your Soul on Fire
Sometimes you have to put your fears aside so that you can go after the things you really want. If it scares you, that’s usually a good sign to jump in. Too often we let our fears keep us from doing the things we are passionate about. The things that we are passionate about usually are the things we are destined to do.
What are your dreams?
I still remember the dreams I had as a little girl! Dreams that somewhere along the way I told myself were impossible and gave up on.
Not anymore! Now I know better!! Now I know if I’m willing to put in the work, anything is possible! And you better believe that’s the message I’m sharing with all 3 of my kiddos!!
Start today, asking yourself, “Why NOT me?”
I didn’t start this business thinking I was going to make it “big.” My reason for starting was that I wanted to pay it forward. I wanted to share my amazing results with others. As I progressed as a coach, I started to see the difference I was making in people’s lives and my mindset changed. Through personal development I began realizing that I did have the potential to make it “big,” I just had to work for it.
Here’s the thing about coaching, it is this AMAZING opportunity! The potential to earn lots of money IS there! Opportunity to travel, make new friends, inspire people can be part of being a coach! BUT it does take WORK! It does take DEDICATION! SACRIFICES are even necessary sometimes.
That’s the thing about dreams, they can come true, but you must put in the work. Successful people always put in the work. You must overcome your fear of failure.
“Jump in and build your wings on the way down”
Wanna be a Mom Boss?
Being able to work while my daughter naps…??
I’ve been a stay at home mom for 13 years now! It’s not because I didn’t enjoy working, I’ve actually always had a good work ethic. I felt that being home with my kids was where I needed to be! And while times have been hard in the past, I’ve NEVER regret that decision! It was the right one for ME and MY family.
So, imagine how WONDERFUL it is for me to be able to get the best of BOTH worlds now!! I get to stay home with baby girl AND work, doing something I LOVE and get Paid for!! My only regret is that I didn’t find this opportunity sooner!!!?
Wanna get a sneak peek into what this coaching thing is all about?
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I hear so many people say that Network marketing is a scam, a pyramid scheme, not a real job. In fact, some of these comments had me doubting what I was doing when I first joined. So, I wanted to answer, is this legit? And can you really make money as a Beachbody coach??
Is this thing legit??
When I signed up to become a Beachbody coach, I actually had no idea what Network Marketing was. I didn’t even realize that being a coach meant that I was now involved in Network Marketing. I also had no idea what a Pyramid Scheme was, though I kept getting snide remarks from people about how I was getting involved in one. Apparently those people also did not know what a Pyramid scheme is. Google it!! I did my own research, learned that being a Beachbody coach is definitely NOT in any way a Pyramid Scheme, figured out what Network Marketing is all about and saw real life proof of what it could do to change my life for the better.
I think that the idea of Network Marketing in general, has gotten a bad rap, mostly from people who were not able to be successful with their company of choice. What people often think, is that it is some sort of get rich quick scheme and I have even seen other network marketers promote it that way. So, what happens when someone signs up and doesn’t get rich quick, they quit and then tell everyone what a scam it is.
Lucky for me, I guess, I didn’t sign up to get rich quick. The reason I signed up was, I genuinely wanted to help others reach their health and fitness goals. I still do, by the way! 😉 After becoming a coach, I was very fortunate enough to become a part of an AMAZING team, where I learned what was possible in this business. But no one told me that it was going to be easy. They were very upfront with the fact that I would have to work for it! And so I have and continue to do so.
Why I love what I do
One of the things that I LOVE about being a part of Beachbody, is that one of their vital behaviors they expect out of their coaches is personal development. Before becoming a coach, I don’t think I had ever read a personal development book, ever! As I watched these coaches have success, they all attributed it to the fact that they worked on personal development daily. So, I thought, well why not!? I can’t even tell you how much that alone, has changed me! My personal development journey started about a year ago and have lost count at the number of books, podcast, audiobooks, youtube videos on PD that I have gone through. Every one teaching me something new from changing my mindset, to understanding different personalities, to learning how to be more productive in life, having a drive and desire to succeed, how to be a better mother, wife, friend, etc, etc.
I think one of the first and maybe biggest things that has changed me, is mindset. Growing up, I believed that I was average and that is what I would always be. I was fine with it too. I never excelled at anything but I also never put in a lot of extra effort. What I have learned is that I am just as capable as anyone of being extraordinary. I have to stop limiting myself.
“If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the rest of the world will not raise the price.”
Learning that it’s okay to want to be successful because I’m willing to work for it was a big step for me. I’m not sitting back waiting for it to just fall in my lap. Being CONSISTENT and PERSISTENT are key ingredients to success. We are all capable of great things! What separates the great from the average, is the little things that we do each day.
Having a VISION is also a key ingredient to success, one that I never had before! I now have a clear vision of what I want my life to be like now and in the future. Picture your life the way you want it to be, down to the smell in the air, and do something to make it happen! And do something EVERYDAY that will get you closer to that reality!
So, can you really be successful as a Beachbody coach???
The answer is YES! But you must be willing to make changes! A willingness to work for it is a required! So is the desire to succeed while helping others do the same!
I absolutely LOVE what I do!! There is no better reward than watching and helping your friends and family reach goals and succeed in their lives. And as a Beachbody coach, I’m so blessed to be a part of such an amazing team who always has each others’ backs and celebrates all of our successes.
I’m looking to grow my team! If you think this may be something you would be interested in, then join me for a Sneak peek into coaching, webinar. Sign up below!