Making a mental shift

It’s transformation Tuesday! Yes, that’s a thing in the fitness world!  But, It isn’t the physical transformation that I love, though it is a nice bonus.  What I really, really love is the mental shift that happens when you start focusing on working on yourself.  That kind of transformation takes time but is so worth it.  It is the reason that I love what I do as a health and wellness mentor.  My heart is so full, when I see women gain a new confidence that they had lost for so long.  Watching women succeed fills my cup.

The start of my transformation

I had a physical transformations fairly quickly after starting my wellness journey.  After doing my first ever Beachbody program, the 21 Day Fix, I lost 11 pounds in my first round and felt great physically.  But I quickly fell off of that wagon and spent the next 9 months or so making excuses as to why I couldn’t commit to a program for longer than a week or so at a time.

That summer, I continued to hide my body under baggy clothes, one piece swim suits (I was always a bikini girl!) and behind my daughter.  Even though I was at a very healthy weight and even fairly toned, I still had no confidence.  My motivation quickly left and I didn’t know where to find it.

Insert, my first ever online challenge group!  This was the accountability that I needed in my life. These women in this group lifted me up and made me want to do better.  I got back to my daily workouts and eating healthy and felt so much better.  But that group soon ended and I was left with no one to motivate me or push me.

That’s about the time, I decided I needed to be my own motivation.  I can’t depend on others to lift me up and push me. If I wanted to succeed,  I had to learn to do it myself.  So I signed up to be a coach with no experience, no clue what I was doing, still very little if any confidence and not at my ideal fitness level.  At that point in my life, I was still consumed by other peoples opinions of me and I certainly didn’t feel worthy of helping any one else.  But I jumped in!

Why?

I jumped in because I knew I needed a change-something to challenge my mind, something to do for myself, outside of my family, something that would keep me accountable to my own goals.

So, I jumped in with both feet.  Well,sort of.  I jumped in with both feet and then started to tip toe back out and then in again and then out and then in again…But I slowly learned to start facing my fears more often.  I quickly began devouring all of the personal development that I could get my hands and ears on!  And you know what happened?  Every damn time I faced one of those fears, every time I tip toed out of my comfort zone, I became a little stronger, a little more confident, a little bit better person.

Who I am now

Who I am now, is NOT who I was five years ago!  And I hope that in five more years, I’m even stronger, more confident, more alive and even more joyful than I am today!  Because I never want to stop growing as a person.  I still have a lot of work to do but I now know how to do it.  Each day, I face the day with a positive attitude and an open mind.  Every day, I start the day with a grateful heart.  I find a way to do something scary and out of my comfort zone on a regular basis.  It’s not always easy but I know that in the long run, it always pays off and I become better for it.

Stop being afraid of becoming who you are meant to be.  Make TODAY, the day you DECIDE to take ACTION on becoming the best YOU, that you can be.

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Happy Tuesday, friends!

xxoo,

Tammy

A Love Letter to my Husband

To my blog readers:  Since it’s Valentine’s week and love is in the air, I thought I’d change things up and share a love letter to my husband.  Why share something so personal?  Because we are in a tough season and I figure there may be other women out there in a similar season of life.  Maybe my words will resonate with you.  Maybe not.  But here they are…

 

To my hubby,

You may wonder why I’m writing you this letter and sharing it for the world to see.  But you know I’m not great at expressing my feelings out loud. Writing is my outlet.  And it’s important to me for you to know how I truly feel about you.  We are in a tough season of life right now. Having and raising children is tough.  It tends to take it’s toll on me, especially.  I can get so wrapped up in meeting the kids needs that I often forget to meet yours.  We’ve been here before and have even gone through harder times. I have no doubt we will see more.   We always manage to survive and come out stronger.

Some people wait a lifetime for a moment like this…

Some people say that their wedding day was the best day of their life.  While our wedding was a moment that I had spent so long waiting for, it’s the marriage that is my favorite.  Figuring out this life with you, have been some of the best moments of my life.

I often wonder what I did to deserve a man like you.  We both know you’re not perfect and I’m certainly not either.  But what you are is good.  It’s like you were made to be a husband, in the way that I was made to be a mother. I’m so grateful for your father for that!   It’s so effortless for you where I seem to have to work so hard at being a good wife.  I want to be better, for you!  I want to learn to give you the attention and meet your needs the way that I do for our children.  I’m trying…

Marriage is hard.

Most people give up as soon as it gets hard but not us.  We pick ourselves up, push through the hard, because we know, we are worth it.  We have built an amazing life together, one that I honestly, never imagined possible.  Though we may fight, disagree, sometimes, not even like each other very much, we will never give up on each other.  Thank you for never giving up on me.

There are so many things that I love about you!   I love how attentive you always are to my needs, my desires and my feelings.  You always put me first. I love how attracted you are to me, after 16 years and 3 kids, you never cease to make me feel wanted.  Your loyalty is something that is so rare and that I cherish.  I know there have been times that you may have thought you wanted to leave but you didn’t.  You stuck it out and have made this family what it is.  I love that our boys have such an amazing role model to look up to.  They will know how to treat a lady and be a gentlemen.  I’m so grateful that our daughter will have high standard for finding a husband because of you. You have set the bar high!

I know that I’m not always the best wife and not the easiest to live with. But I love you with my whole heart! Every day of this life I am grateful to get to spend it with you. We will make it though this tough season and we will be better for it.  Know that I appreciate you and all that you have done and continue to do for our family.  You are the love of my life and I promise to cherish you for the rest of yours.  Thank you for choosing me and never giving up on me!